How To Stop Being So Angry All The Time

Life is full of little annoyances – like when the person in front of you in line won’t stop gabbing, or when the waiter mixes up your order. Sometimes, it can be more serious, like when a client is yelling at you because they’re having a bad day.

The point is that there are many events in life that we respond to by feeling frustrated. It’s normal to feel annoyance from time to time. But it’s not normal to find yourself fuming over the smallest little thing that goes wrong or to feel angry all the time. There are two ways to be happy in life 1) have people treat you the way you want (not likely) 2) Decide to respond to the people and the world in a better way.

Yes, you can be the person who either reacts to events and situations or you can have a set of “first principles” to guide you no matter what sort of chaos happens around you.  Start by deciding what kind of person do you want to be seen as by yourself and others. Do you want to be the person you would look up to with admiration or the person who looks back on your actions with regret and embarrassment?  The next step is to practice being that person.

That is not to say it will be easy. In fact expect it to be hard by going over in your mind the most difficult situations you can imagine in the most dignified and resourceful ways. Practice feeling frustrated or angry and calming your self. Rehearse responding to criticism know how the other person feels (even if they are wrong).

Understand, your automatic emotional responses happen outside of your conscious control, but if you have set guidelines for your behavior you are more likely to rein them in before they start creating too much chaos.

So Rule Number One is Decide, in detail, the kind of person you want to be and challenge yourself to be that person.

It’s Normal to Get Angry On Occasion

Anger was designed to be a stress response. It gets you ready to fight or flee for your life. It gets the adrenaline pumping and helps heighten the senses. You feel ready to take on anything. Readiness is useful if you have a shark chasing you down, or you need to fight off an attacker.

In dangerous situations, you need to be at your peak physically, and the adrenaline helps with that. The problem nowadays, though, is that there are a lot of situations that might cause us to feel angry, situations that are not actually life-threatening.

According to the Mayo Clinic, anger can contribute to heart disease, strokes, ulcers, and high blood pressure. So you need to get it under control if you want to remain healthy.

Should You Never Feel Anger?

No, anger can be a very positive motivator to make changes. Using that anger wisely is what matters.

Journal

The act of writing out your thoughts is cathartic. Writing allows you to clearly state your problems and reflect upon the possible solutions. You can use writing as a chance to vent your emotions without losing control and while keeping your “ideal self” in mind.

Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness is the simple act of being aware, without judgment, of what you are experiencing. Mindfulness allows you to notice your feelings and emotions without actively responding to them. It give you pause enough to decide whether your feelings should be thought of as advice or a distraction.

Meditation will also be of benefit. Start by meditating for just five minutes a day, every day. You don’t have to do anything too complicated. Try focusing on your breathing as a simple introduction to the calming effect of meditation. Breathe to the count of four, hold your breath to the count of four, exhale to the count of four.

Repeat this several times until you start to feel your mind clear and you feel calmer and more relaxed. Practice this every day, whether you feel angry or not. Breathing exercises are an excellent tool for helping you gain control of your thoughts.

Counting and breathing won’t be easy initially, but it gets better with practice. And, of course, if you’re angry, this is a great exercise to help you regain your composure.

Call a hypnotist.

Hypnosis deals directly with the subconscious mind. That includes habits, emotions and automatic reactions. David, at Eastern Oregon Hypnosis has over 20 years of experience working with people on all sorts of problems.

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Hypnosis: The Missing Piece of The Puzzle

Hypnosis can be the missing piece you need.

For those people who want to quit smoking it can be a real challenge. For some strange reason smoking becomes a deeply ingrained habit. Its flow of chemicals into our blood stream creates a familiar feeling that we say we like. That’s what makes quitting smoking so hard.

People know they should quit smoking, they know that it should be easy to become a non-smoker, but they just haven’t found the missing piece of the puzzle.

This is also true for people who want to lose weight, or overcome fears and anxiety. They know they SHOULD have control but they don’t feel they have any control.

Because the smoking habit is a deep part of regular behaviors we think that will-power is the missing piece. I’ve only met a few people who successfully used will-power alone to quit smoking. Most of them found it very uncomfortable. For the rest of the smoking world quitting is a painful process. Having been instructed in how to smoke the subconscious mind will continue doing its job creating cravings and urges to smoke. A well trained subconscious mind can insure a smoker will light up a cigarette without thinking.

Only by communicating with the subconscious mind can meaningful change be made that will lead a smoker EASILY to becoming a non-smoker.

This is demonstrated at the end of the hypnosis session when, the now non-smoker, can’t bring up a craving for a cigarette even if they try. They will also identify themselves as a non-smoker instead of a smoker.

What is it like to be hypnotized?

There is a misconception that one goes to sleep or ‘goes out’ when hypnotized. A persons body may seem relaxed in hypnosis. That is because all the real work is being done with the imagination.

For the individual who eagerly follows the instructions of a skilled hypnotist, they have a deeply pleasant, enjoyable and rich internal experience. Hearing a client shout “Wow!” at the end of a session isn’t unexpected. Yes, the experience is often THAT enjoyable.

The pleasure of the hypnosis experience is only a backdrop to the results. A person working with a skilled hypnotist should find in impossible to bring back a craving for a cigarette after their stop smoking hypnosis session. They will also identify themselves as a non-smoker.

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How To Help Your Friend Quit Smoking

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This article is for the friend or family member of the person who smokes. I’d like to give a few recommendations on how to best get them to quit smoking.

Be Open
Keep in mind that people start smoking, and continue to smoke, for a lot of reasons. They also quit for many different reasons. For that reason it’s best to avoid nagging them about smoking. Many people started smoking to be rebellious and nagging them can easily make them want to resist your pressure.

It’s best to take on the attitude of “I love you and would love to hear when you decide to quit smoking.”

Be Patient and Persistent
Quitting smoking cold turkey is tough for most people. If they decide to have a cigarette make sure you’re still on their side. Congratulate them on how long they went without smoking and remind them it will get easier every time. Always work from the assumption that eventually they will quit smoking. It’s just a matter of time.

Many smokers no longer think of smoking as a choice. Instead it’s become a habit or addiction. Make sure when you talk about smoking you present smoking as a choice, something you choose to do or choose not to do. This will subtly remind the smoker that no matter how much they crave a cigarette they are choosing to smoke it.

Oh yeah, Don’t Nag!

Be Strong
This means having your own set of rules about smoking. Many people designate their homes and cars as non-smoking areas. That may mean designating a smoking area outdoors or in a garage. This is about showing your support of healthy living and not about being a “health Nazi”.

Make a Recommendation
Tell the smokers in your life that you care about them and you would love to see them quit smoking. Send them to this website or email them this article.

I’ve been helping people quit smoking for almost 20 years. It doesn’t have to hurt to give up cigarettes and tobacco.

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Hypnosis, weight loss and insulin dependent diabetes

Candice, an insulin dependent diabetic, came for hypnosis the day before the Thanksgiving Holiday.

She wanted to use hypnosis for weight loss and in two weeks from her first session she lost 4 lbs and has no cravings for sweets!

If you want to learn more about the weight loss program contact David Barron at Eastern Oregon Hypnosis http://EasternOregonHypnosis.com

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